We don’t always know the “whys” behind our own behaviour, yet there is so much certainty in the way we pretend to know everything.
“Reasons” are the verbal explanations we give to account for our behaviour, where it is possible for Reasons to be true, false, or anything in between.
We somehow developed an ability to collect reasons mainly for the purpose of persuading others to support our predetermined conclusions.
Instead of trying to be perfect, self-accepting people understand and forgive themselves for their imperfections.
Only people high in self-acceptance hold positive views of themselves that aren’t dependent on external validation, that is, they don’t need excessive praise, or hundreds of Facebook “likes,” or conspicuous possessions to feel good about themselves and their contributions.
“Why” questions trap us in our past; “what” questions help us create a better future. The transition from “why” to “what” is the difference between victimhood and growth.
People don’t generally care about our mistakes as much as we think they do.
Even though it’s important to understand how other people see us, those views don’t completely define who we are.
True insight only happens when we process both our thoughts and our feelings.
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