1)<\/strong> Keep a watch on stories that you are in habit of telling yourself<\/h6>\nWe tell ourselves all sorts of elaborate stories to justify what we want.<\/p>\n
A person addicted to gambling will compulsively pursue the thrills of making windfall gains and losing money. But he will never shy away from weaving a convincing story about how he\u2019s going to win everything back and show everyone he\u2019s not a loser or that he\u2019s actually doing this for his family.<\/p>\n
A mother who fights with her children constantly because they don\u2019t call her with a certain regularity is holding onto a transaction based definition of love.<\/p>\n
A friend who refrains from telling you the uncomfortable truth probably does so because he doesn\u2019t want to threaten whatever he\u2019s getting from you. A co-worker who is insecure about your growth does so because he is a victim of scarcity mindset, where he is perceiving everything to be a zero sum game. Which is nothing but his misplaced perception.<\/p>\n
2) Outgrowing the obvious question of \u201cwhat\u2019s in it for me ?\u201d<\/h5>\n
Most of us, majority of the time, are stuck at the level of bargaining, of asking ourselves, \u201cwhat\u2019s in it for me ?\u201d or worse, keep screaming like a kid, \u201cI WANT THIS, AND I WANT IT NOW\u201d.<\/p>\n
The underlying belief is that there is a limited amount of \u201cpie\u201d for everyone and it is up to them to take the biggest slice for themselves.<\/p>\n
There is a widespread common misconception that when it comes to achieving professional success, selflessness is more effective than generosity. This is particularly true in traditionally cutthroat professions like business and politics. Interestingly though, it turns out generous and helpful often succeed in such environments, as their interest in helping others often benefits them too.<\/p>\n
3) Moving beyond the insecurity of failure<\/h5>\n
There are absolutely no shortage of how many times you can get up and continue. There is no failure unless you quit! There will always be another opportunity waiting for you on another day.<\/p>\n
We\u2019re living in a world where we often make the mistake of wanting the result without the process. And the process is exactly the place where most of the magic happens. The process teaches you to stretch beyond your comfort zone & allow you to experience life from a completely new perspective.<\/p>\n
4) Living for a cause that is larger than yourself because you are not the centre of this universe<\/h5>\n
The universe may not seem to be advancing toward a particular goal, however, you can be rest assured that things happen because of the law of nature. But we humans like to deceive ourselves by thinking that everything happens for a reason.<\/p>\n
The truth is\u200a\u2014\u200athe world keeps happening, in accordance with its rules; it\u2019s up to you to make sense of it and ascribe value to it. If possible please align\u00a0your self-interpretation with your actions that gives you control over your life and your actions.<\/p>\n
And stop viewing all your relationships and actions as a means to an end, because you will keep suspecting an ulterior motive in everything that happens and everything anyone ever does to you.<\/p>\n
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Parting Thoughts<\/h6>\n
We move beyond our childish values when we realize that there are repercussions for our actions beyond our immediate self. By creating\u00a0consequences, you\u2019re making yourself accountable.<\/p>\n
Adulthood occurs when one realizes that it\u2019s better to suffer for the right reasons than to feel pleasure for the wrong reasons. Adulthood occurs when one realizes that it\u2019s better to love and lose than to never make an attempt to love at all.<\/p>\n
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